The Essentials to Being a Transformational Leader
If each of us struggles to identify and claim our own value then how much more do we need to affirm the value in others? We are all victims to the lies in our heads, but we have the power to speak truth into others to cast out those lies.
Far too often we forget to consider the direct impact we have on those we work with. Considering how much time we spend with our co-workers, it is vital to foster a relationship with each other built on trust and vulnerability. We cannot just assume they feel valued because they have a job. No. We need to look outside of ourselves and realize we all want the same thing—to feel known, heard, and valued for who we are so that we can be confident in the work we do each and every day. If that is what everyone wants then why is it so hard to affirm the value in others?
Think of how great it feels to receive a compliment. Now think of how much greater that would feel if they were complimenting something you are insecure about or feel like you’re not good at. Our words are powerful, we should use them to lift and affirm others in who they naturally are.
They say “it’s lonely at the top” but we would argue it’s lonely everywhere. Loneliness is not exclusive to leaders. The selfish nature of our world puts us in silos. Competition and comparison rule our minds and actions. We are told to look out for #1 and no one else. That might work out for a short amount of time but when the storms of life come crashing down, who do you turn to? Do you have people you can depend on?
We need others we can trust and be vulnerable with. Life is hard. We can’t be perfect, but perfection is not a requirement for you to be considered valuable. When life knocks you down or you make a mistake, it’s easy to assume that you don’t have value. That is when you need authentic community to pick you back up and remind you of your value. You need to walk alongside people that know you will hold you accountable to your value. These are the people who have seen you at your worst and seen you are your best. You need them to affirm who you naturally are in order to fight off the lies you tell yourself.
Life is too hard and too short to go at it alone. Go find the people that need you just as much as you need them and you’ll see yourself and others transform in more ways than you could imagine.